Alright, let’s get real. Times change, sure—but you know what’s always in style? Sex.

Alright, let’s get real. Times change, sure—but you know what’s always in style? Sex.

Yep. No matter who you are, where you’re from, or who you’re into, sex is pretty much a universal language. It’s a fantastic pressure valve, releasing all those feel-good hormones. It can be a fun romp or an intensely intimate connection. And with the right “gear”—like a rechargeable vibrater or a bluetooth vibrator—the experience gets even better.

So, while every sexual experience matters, we’re zeroing in on the 10 best sex positions for gay men—perfect for trying out with toys like a mens vibrator or a vibrating prostate toy.

Buckle up, we’re about to dive into this year’s hottest must-try positions.

Your Go-To List: The 10 Hottest Gay Sex Positions to Try This Year

Before we start, let’s be clear: Sex can play a major role in relationships.
It’s not everything, but when it’s good, it keeps the spark alive and builds serious chemistry. Introducing a couples vibrater can deepen that connection.
And if you’re single, in a situationship, or just doing your own thing—as long as it’s consensual and safe—sex can be a powerful form of self-care and expression. Whether it’s a one-night thing or more, exploring with a male vibrating toy or a female vibrator can be a journey in itself.

Enough talk, let’s get into it.

What’s Different About Gay Sex Positions?

A lot of people think sex = penis in vagina. That’s it. End of story.
But that thinking often misses out on all the other amazing ways people feel pleasure.
We respect everyone’s views, but gay sex is completely legit—and honestly, a lot of gay sex positions are loved by straight couples too, especially when paired with toys like a gay vibrator or a handy handheld vibrator.

So, what’s the difference?
Gay sex usually means both partners have a penis. This often involves anal sex—but it also includes foreplay, oral, and more, all made better with toys like a vibrating anal wand.

When it comes to penetration, usually one partner is the “top” (the one doing the penetrating) and the other is the “bottom” (the one receiving). Some people stick to one role, others like to switch—those folks often call themselves “versatile” or “verse”.

A few things to keep in mind:

Prep helps. Doing an enema or using a douche beforehand can help avoid messy little surprises if you’re planning for anal.

Bigger isn’t always better. The anus isn’t as stretchy as a vagina, so going too deep can be painful for some bottoms.

The main pleasure spot? The P-spot (the prostate). It’s a walnut-sized gland inside the rectum, and when it’s stimulated—especially with a vibrating prostate toy or an anal egg vibrator—it can lead to mind-blowing orgasms.

Lube is non-negotiable. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so keep things slick for comfort.

4 Gay Sex Positions for Beginners

If you’re new to gay sex, take it slow—and make sure you’re with someone you trust.
The anus can be tight at first, so it needs gentle acclimation. The pleasure will follow.

Missionary
Don’t let anyone tell you missionary is just for straight couples!
In the gay version, the bottom lies on their back, legs spread and slightly raised. The top positions themselves on top, steadies themselves, and enters.
This position is super intimate—perfect for kissing and eye contact.

Doggy Style
Simple but potentially intense.
The bottom gets on their hands and knees (or lies flat with a pillow under their hips), and the top enters from behind.
It allows for deep penetration, so if you’re new, mind the pace.

Spooning Sex
A cuddly, intimate position—spooning isn’t just for aftercare.
Both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction. The top (the “big spoon”) enters the bottom (the “little spoon”) from behind.
Lots of skin-to-skin contact and a relaxed vibe make this great for beginners.

Anal Sex with Toys
Toys open up a whole new world of pleasure.
Try a vibrating prostate toy for targeted P-spot stimulation, or use a vibrating cock ring during anal sex for a harder erection and extra buzz.
Imagine the fun with a wireless remote control vibrating toy, or letting your partner control a bluetooth vibrator from across the room. Want something different? A heated vibrator offers warm comfort, while a powerful black vibrator delivers classic style and power.
From simple male vibrating toy options to advanced anal gear—there’s so much to explore.

6 Gay Sex Positions for the Experienced

Mastered the basics? Ready to level up?
This section is for you.

The Cliff Diver
Similar to doggy style, but with a twist.
The bottom starts on all fours, and the top enters from behind. Then, the top stands up, holding the bottom’s waist or thighs to lift them, allowing the bottom to wrap their legs around the top’s back.
Deep penetration and a clear power dynamic make this position spark.

Power Bottom Deep Dive
This one gives control to the bottom.
The top sits on a chair, knees bent toward their chest, penis pointing up and out. The bottom then sits down onto them, facing away, controlling the rhythm, speed, and depth.
It’s even better if they’re using a wireless remote control vibrating toy they control themselves.

The Leg Lift
The bottom lies on a bed or sofa, and the top pushes the bottom’s legs back toward their chest before entering.
The further back the legs are pushed, the tighter the fit—ideal if you like intense, close-contact stimulation.

The Rocking Chair
“If the car’s a-rockin’…” You know the deal.
The top lies on their back, knees bent toward their chest. The bottom sits between the top’s legs, facing away, and lowers themselves onto their partner. Then, it’s a rocking, back-and-forth motion.
Unique stimulation + a great view for the top.

The Seesaw
A bit physically demanding—best for experienced partners.
The top lies down, propping their lower legs straight up on a chair or the bed. The bottom straddles the top’s legs and guides them in.
Both partners can control the rhythm and depth—teamwork makes the dream work.

Fisting
This isn’t about penis penetration—it’s about the whole hand.
Using tons of lube, one partner slowly inserts their hand (shaped like a “duck bill”) into the other’s anus.
This takes practice—using larger toys, like a vibrating anal wand, can help prepare you. But when done right, it offers incredible prostate stimulation and full-body pleasure. An egg vibrator can also be a great tool for warming up and stretching.