How to Pick the Perfect Thick Dildo for Your Needs

When I started dildo shopping, I quickly learned that thick dildos come in all shapes and sizes. Finding the perfect fit means I have to think about my personal needs and desires. Size matters, but comfort always wins. I love exploring unique options like Dog Dildos, Dinosaur Dildos, and Elephant Dildos. Choosing the right dildo feels exciting when I focus on what makes me feel good. Safety and satisfaction guide every choice I make with thick dildos.

Know Your Experience Level

Beginner Tips

When I first started exploring thick dildos, I felt a little overwhelmed by all the choices. I learned that people use sexual wellness products for different reasons. Some want more comfort, others want to try something new, and many just want to have fun. My own reasons changed as I gained more experience. Studies show that most beginners feel happiest with dildos that match average sizes. For example, best-selling dildos are usually about 6.5 inches long and just over 1.5 inches thick. Experts say it’s smart to start with a smaller size and see how it feels. I always check the insertable length, not just the total length, because that makes a big difference in comfort. I also look for body-safe materials like silicone or glass. These are easy to clean and feel good. Here are my top tips for beginners:

Start with a size close to the average (about 4–6 inches long, 4–5 inches around).
Pick a dildo made from safe materials.
Go slow and listen to your body.
Use plenty of lube for comfort.

Tip: I always remind myself that there’s no rush. Exploring at my own pace helps me enjoy the experience more.

Moving Up in Size

After I got comfortable with my first dildo, I wanted to try something thicker. I learned that moving up in size takes time and patience. Everyone’s body is different, so progress looks different for each person. Some people notice changes in a few months, while others take longer. I found a helpful table that shows what to expect:

Aspect	What I Learned
Timeframe	Gaining 1 inch can take 6–9 months of regular use.
Progress	Small gains (0.1–0.2 inches) each month are common.
Effort	Consistency matters more than speed.
Challenges	Discomfort and plateaus can happen, so I take breaks and use padding.
Safety	I stop every hour or so and check for any pain or numbness.
Mindset	Patience and realistic goals keep me motivated.

I always increase size slowly and pay attention to how my body feels. If I ever feel discomfort, I pause and try again later. My journey with thick dildos taught me that patience and self-care lead to the best results.

Choose Your Dildo Size

When I started to choose my dildo size, I realized there was more to it than just picking the biggest one I could find. I had to think about length, insertable length, width, diameter, girth, and circumference. Each of these size details changed how the toy felt for me. I learned that what feels “big” or “thick” is different for everyone. My comfort and anatomy always come first.

Length vs. Girth

At first, I thought length was the most important part of size. I soon found out that girth and diameter made a bigger difference in how full I felt. Girth is the measurement around the toy, called circumference, while diameter is the width across. Some dildos look long but feel slim. Others are short but have a thick diameter that stretches me in new ways.

I read a study that said most people care more about girth than length. The most popular toys had a circumference of about 4.85 inches. That surprised me! I started to pay more attention to the diameter and circumference when I shopped. I also noticed that a toy with a larger diameter could feel much bigger, even if it was not very long.

Tip: I always check both the diameter and circumference before I buy. That helps me avoid surprises and makes sure I get the feeling I want.

Insertable Length

Insertable length means how much of the dildo I can actually use. Some toys look huge, but only part of them is meant to go inside. I learned to check this number every time. For me, a moderate insertable length feels best. I tried a dildo with an insertable length of 5.5 inches, and it felt just right. It gave me enough depth without feeling uncomfortable.

I also found out that insertable length is not always the most important thing. Many people, including me, care more about the diameter and girth. Still, I always make sure the insertable length matches what my body can handle. I never force myself to take more than I want.

Finding Your Fit

Finding my perfect fit took some trial and error. I started with smaller, softer dildos. I liked toys that had a diameter of about 1 to 1.5 inches and a circumference of 4 to 5 inches. These sizes felt gentle and easy to use. I also tried dilator kits that let me move up in size slowly. That helped me get used to thicker toys without pain.

Here’s a quick table I made to help beginners choose their first size:

Experience Level	Insertable Length	Diameter	Circumference	Firmness
Beginner	4–8 inches	1–1.5 inches	4–6 inches	Soft/Medium
Intermediate	6–8 inches	1.5–2 inches	5–6.5 inches	Medium
Advanced	8+ inches	2+ inches	6.5+ inches	Firm

I always use lots of lube and take my time. I listen to my body and stop if anything feels wrong. I learned that starting small and moving up in diameter and circumference works best for me. Flexible toys also help me adjust to new sizes.

Smaller, shorter, and flexible dildos are great for beginners.
Dilator kits let me increase size slowly.
Mid-sized, soft dildos feel good when I want something more.
Shallow penetration vibrators help me get used to new sensations.

Choosing your dildo size is a personal journey. My advice is to start with what feels safe and comfortable. I always remind myself that there is no rush. My body knows what it likes, and I trust it every step of the way.

Thick Dildos: Design & Material

Realistic vs. Fantasy

When I shop for thick dildos, I always notice two main styles: realistic and fantasy. Realistic dildos look and feel like a real body part. They often have veins, a lifelike head, and a natural color. These details make the experience feel more true to life. Fantasy dildos, on the other hand, come in wild shapes and colors. I have seen ones shaped like dragons or aliens. Some even have extra ridges or bumps for more texture. I like to switch between both styles, depending on my mood. Realistic dildos give me comfort and a familiar feeling. Fantasy dildos let me explore new sensations and push my limits. The shape and texture of each toy change how it feels inside me, so I pick what matches my mood.

Tip: I try different designs to see what makes me feel excited or curious. There is no right or wrong choice.

Flexibility & Firmness

The material of thick dildos makes a big difference in how they feel. Some are soft and bendy, while others are firm and hold their shape. I like softer dildos when I want gentle pressure. They move with my body and feel less intense. Firmer dildos give me a fuller, more solid feeling. They press against my favorite spots and can add more pressure. I also pay attention to the texture. Smooth dildos slide in easily, but ones with bumps or ridges give extra stimulation. I always check if the dildo is made from body-safe silicone or another safe material. This keeps me comfortable and healthy.

Here’s a quick table I use to compare:

Material Type	Flexibility	Best For
Soft Silicone	High	Gentle, comfy sessions
Firm Silicone	Low	Strong, full sensations
Glass	None	Smooth, easy cleaning

Color & Aesthetics

Color and looks matter to me when I pick thick dildos. I feel more excited when I see a toy in a color I love. Studies show that colors can change how we feel. Warm colors like red or orange make me feel bold and passionate. Cool colors like blue or green help me relax. I notice that I reach for bright, fun colors when I want to try something new. The way a dildo looks can boost my mood and make the whole experience better. Research also says that people who care about how things look enjoy their products more. I find this true for myself, especially with thick dildos that have a cool design or a pretty color. Sometimes, I pick a toy just because it looks amazing.

Note: I let myself choose what looks good to me. A beautiful dildo can make my experience feel special.

Safety & Care

Body-Safe Materials

When I pick a thick dildo, I always check what it’s made of. The sex toy industry does not have strict rules, so some toys use unsafe chemicals like phthalates or chlorinated paraffins. I read that these can cause skin problems, allergic reactions, or even worse health issues. Silicone stands out as a safer choice because it rarely causes allergies and feels gentle on my skin. I also look for toys made from glass or stainless steel. These materials are non-porous and easy to clean. I learned that some companies claim their toys are “100% silicone” or “phthalate-free,” but these labels are not always true. Groups like NAASAS and CATT try to help by listing brands that use safer materials, but there is no official certification yet. I always choose toys with smooth, non-porous surfaces and avoid anything that smells strong or feels sticky.

Tip: I trust my senses. If a toy smells odd or feels greasy, I skip it.

Here’s a quick table I use to check for safety:

Aspect	What I Look For
Material Safety	Medical-grade silicone, glass, or stainless steel; no phthalates or PVC
Chemical Testing	Brands that mention testing for toxins and allergens
Hygiene and Design	Smooth, non-porous, easy to clean surfaces
Regulatory Compliance	Brands that follow ASTM or ISO standards, even if not required

Lubricant Compatibility

I always match my lube to my dildo’s material. For silicone toys, I stick with water-based lubes. Silicone-based lubes can make the surface sticky or gummy. Sometimes, I use coconut oil as a natural option, but I do a patch test first. Glass, ceramic, and metal toys work with almost any lube, so I have more choices. I avoid oil-based lubes with thermoplastic toys because they can break down the material. If I use a wood toy, I check with the maker about safe lubes.

Material Type	Best Lubes	What to Avoid
Silicone	Water-based, coconut oil (test)	Silicone-based lubes
Glass/Metal	Any type	None
Thermoplastics	Water-based, silicone hybrids	Oil-based lubes
Wood	Ask the maker	Depends on sealant

Note: I always read the label on both the toy and the lube before I use them.

Cleaning & Storage

I clean my toys before and after every use. Soap and warm water work well for most non-porous toys like silicone, glass, or stainless steel. Sometimes, I boil my glass or metal toys to make sure they are extra clean. I never boil toys with motors. For those, I remove the batteries and wipe them down. I store my toys in soft fabric bags or their original boxes. This keeps them safe from dust and damage. I never toss them loose in a drawer. If I share toys or use them for anal pleasure, I use condoms or clean them very carefully. Experts say that good cleaning and storage help prevent infections and keep toys in great shape.

Wash toys with soap and water after each use.
Boil glass or metal toys for deep cleaning.
Remove batteries before cleaning motorized toys.
Store toys in clean, dry places, away from sunlight and heat.
Use fabric bags or cases to keep toys separate.

Tip: I always clean new toys before I use them for the first time.

Sizing Guides & Reviews

How to Use Guides

When I first started shopping for thick dildos, I felt lost with all the numbers and choices. Sizing guides helped me a lot. These guides break down the important measurements like length, insertable length, circumference, and diameter. I always check the diameter because it tells me how wide the toy will feel. Most guides show a chart or table with different sizes. I like to compare these numbers to things I know, like a marker or a soda can, so I can picture the size better.

Here’s how I use a sizing guide:

I look for the diameter and circumference first.
I check the insertable length to see how much of the toy I can actually use.
I compare the numbers to my past favorites.
I use the guide’s tips for beginners or advanced users.

Tip: I always measure with a ruler or tape at home before I buy. This helps me avoid surprises.

Learning from Reviews

I never skip reading reviews before I buy a new toy. Real people share what worked for them and what didn’t. When I read real reviews, I notice that many people talk about the diameter and how it feels. Some say a diameter of about 1.5 inches feels perfect, while others want something thicker. I also see that most popular toys have a circumference just above the average real penis, around 4.85 inches. If the diameter gets much bigger, people often say it feels too large.

A study looked at hundreds of reviews and found some cool facts:

Circumference matters most for popularity. The best-loved toys have a circumference just above average.
Bigger diameters do not always mean more fun. Too much can make a toy less popular.
Length is not as important as diameter for most people.
Realistic looks or extra features do not always make a toy better.

I trust reviews because they come from people like me. I always look for details about diameter and comfort. Reviews help me pick a toy that fits my needs and feels good every time.

Picking the perfect thick dildo feels like a journey. I always start by thinking about my experience and what size feels right. I look at different designs and materials to find what excites me. Safety comes first every time.